Olive You Comments http://ellisfamily.blogsome.com Ellis Family Blog - Our Russian Adoption Mon, 30 Nov 2009 10:40:25 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=1.5.1-alpha by: chyna&tori http://ellisfamily.blogsome.com/2007/06/18/nicknames/#comment-286 Tue, 02 Jun 2009 02:04:26 +0100 http://ellisfamily.blogsome.com/2007/06/18/nicknames/#comment-286 we all like the bestest friends and we love eachother like sisters[no homo] and we both wanted a nickname for us can be!!!? we all like the bestest friends and we love eachother like sisters[no homo] and we both wanted a nickname for us can be!!!?

]]> by: Christen http://ellisfamily.blogsome.com/2008/02/01/traffic-jam/#comment-285 Fri, 01 Feb 2008 01:47:10 +0000 http://ellisfamily.blogsome.com/2008/02/01/traffic-jam/#comment-285 By the way, we call them "Fritters" because they all come off the cruise ships and eat Conch Fritters in the restaurants. By the way, we call them “Fritters” because they all come off the cruise ships and eat Conch Fritters in the restaurants.

]]> by: Melissa B http://ellisfamily.blogsome.com/2008/02/01/traffic-jam/#comment-284 Fri, 01 Feb 2008 01:42:09 +0000 http://ellisfamily.blogsome.com/2008/02/01/traffic-jam/#comment-284 Oh, that is great!! You're right...uncommon experience here! Just like when Rhonda lived in Alaska and posted pics of moose in her backyard! I just get the occasional squirrel. Hmph. Oh, that is great!! You’re right…uncommon experience here! Just like when Rhonda lived in Alaska and posted pics of moose in her backyard! I just get the occasional squirrel. Hmph.

]]> by: Rachael http://ellisfamily.blogsome.com/2008/01/28/grow-up/#comment-283 Thu, 31 Jan 2008 00:12:51 +0000 http://ellisfamily.blogsome.com/2008/01/28/grow-up/#comment-283 my friends and i used to pass around the LA Times crossword puzzle for group completion in our row. but we were very discreet about it :). people watch movies?? really?? my friends and i used to pass around the LA Times crossword puzzle for group completion in our row. but we were very discreet about it :) . people watch movies?? really??

]]> by: Melissa B. http://ellisfamily.blogsome.com/2008/01/24/what-happened-to-for-better-or-for-worse/#comment-282 Wed, 30 Jan 2008 15:38:12 +0000 http://ellisfamily.blogsome.com/2008/01/24/what-happened-to-for-better-or-for-worse/#comment-282 The state of marriages, these days, is really is sad. When we had not been married long, my immediate family was almost torn apart by this very thing (not me & N, but someone else in my immediate family). It was terribly devastating. It was someone that - I had always believed to have a strong marriage, etc. Also, a year ago, same story, different people in Nathan's family. Anyway, with the help of a counselor & some excellent books (and lots of work), so much hurt has been mended in both my & Nathan's families. But both situations gave Nathan & I a wakeup call. I had always had the same attitude as you - it WILL NOT happen to us. But as I witnessed, first hand, if we are not careful, it could! Anyway, when the first situation happened, we got our hands on an excellent book called, "His Needs, Her Needs: Affair-Proofing Your Marriage." We scoffed at the idea of reading this...afterall, OUR marriage would always be strong. But at the insistence of my family member (this is getting laborious, talking in non-specifics - sorry), Nathan & I both read it. Mostly to appease this family member. But, OMG, we are glad we did. Not only was our marriage strong to begin with, we now can make absolute certain that we are doing what we need to be doing in order to keep it completely "affair proof"!! We still read parts of it (if not the whole book) occasionally, if we feel the need...just to remember what marriage & "meeting essential needs" is all about!! Sometimes the reminder is nice. Anyway...I just wanted to chime in here & say that I'm completely with you!! And to give you an idea for a good, easy read (as if you probably need anything else? haha). Not only might it give you & Frank strength...but it could very well help you in helping your friends. Email me, if I've been totally confusing (I looked for your email, but totally can't locate it right now)! :) The state of marriages, these days, is really is sad. When we had not been married long, my immediate family was almost torn apart by this very thing (not me & N, but someone else in my immediate family). It was terribly devastating. It was someone that - I had always believed to have a strong marriage, etc. Also, a year ago, same story, different people in Nathan’s family.

Anyway, with the help of a counselor & some excellent books (and lots of work), so much hurt has been mended in both my & Nathan’s families.

But both situations gave Nathan & I a wakeup call. I had always had the same attitude as you - it WILL NOT happen to us. But as I witnessed, first hand, if we are not careful, it could!

Anyway, when the first situation happened, we got our hands on an excellent book called, “His Needs, Her Needs: Affair-Proofing Your Marriage.” We scoffed at the idea of reading this…afterall, OUR marriage would always be strong. But at the insistence of my family member (this is getting laborious, talking in non-specifics - sorry), Nathan & I both read it. Mostly to appease this family member.

But, OMG, we are glad we did. Not only was our marriage strong to begin with, we now can make absolute certain that we are doing what we need to be doing in order to keep it completely “affair proof”!! We still read parts of it (if not the whole book) occasionally, if we feel the need…just to remember what marriage & “meeting essential needs” is all about!! Sometimes the reminder is nice.

Anyway…I just wanted to chime in here & say that I’m completely with you!! And to give you an idea for a good, easy read (as if you probably need anything else? haha). Not only might it give you & Frank strength…but it could very well help you in helping your friends.

Email me, if I’ve been totally confusing (I looked for your email, but totally can’t locate it right now)! :)

]]> by: Diana http://ellisfamily.blogsome.com/2008/01/28/grow-up/#comment-281 Tue, 29 Jan 2008 17:41:41 +0000 http://ellisfamily.blogsome.com/2008/01/28/grow-up/#comment-281 I don't think you're overly stiff. If the prof continued to make jokes, that's one thing. If the prof is moving on and trying to lecture about serious material is just obnoxious. I hate taking classes where it's constant stuff like that, but (unfortunately) I've also talked to many future and current PhD's that were secret pigs (not the cute kind like you like:). I thought it was the byproduct of being in Psychology - guess not :( I don’t think you’re overly stiff. If the prof continued to make jokes, that’s one thing. If the prof is moving on and trying to lecture about serious material is just obnoxious. I hate taking classes where it’s constant stuff like that, but (unfortunately) I’ve also talked to many future and current PhD’s that were secret pigs (not the cute kind like you like:). I thought it was the byproduct of being in Psychology - guess not :(

]]> by: elle http://ellisfamily.blogsome.com/2008/01/28/grow-up/#comment-280 Tue, 29 Jan 2008 03:34:42 +0000 http://ellisfamily.blogsome.com/2008/01/28/grow-up/#comment-280 With attitudes like that they won't make it. With attitudes like that they won’t make it.

]]> by: annmarie http://ellisfamily.blogsome.com/2008/01/28/grow-up/#comment-279 Mon, 28 Jan 2008 21:50:28 +0000 http://ellisfamily.blogsome.com/2008/01/28/grow-up/#comment-279 Kinda sad and this seems to be the new trend in many fields. No one can take anything seriously anymore. Make sure you bring a cinder block with you when you do rounds. You'll need to strike people with it! Kinda sad and this seems to be the new trend in many fields. No one can take anything seriously anymore. Make sure you bring a cinder block with you when you do rounds. You’ll need to strike people with it!

]]> by: deana http://ellisfamily.blogsome.com/2008/01/24/what-happened-to-for-better-or-for-worse/#comment-278 Sat, 26 Jan 2008 00:57:34 +0000 http://ellisfamily.blogsome.com/2008/01/24/what-happened-to-for-better-or-for-worse/#comment-278 I'm with you on the whole infidelity issue! I find it incredibly GROSS that a person male or female can be intimate with someone else and his/her spouse during the same timeframe! It is sickening to the core. I find divorce a bit ground shaking. My parents divorced after 45 years of marriage. Dad passed away 2 weeks ago, and let me tell you it was HARD on my mom!!! Divorce stinks! It adds all kinds of negative emotions to life! Sounds like Diana has some great advice! I’m with you on the whole infidelity issue! I find it incredibly GROSS that a person male or female can be intimate with someone else and his/her spouse during the same timeframe! It is sickening to the core.

I find divorce a bit ground shaking. My parents divorced after 45 years of marriage. Dad passed away 2 weeks ago, and let me tell you it was HARD on my mom!!! Divorce stinks! It adds all kinds of negative emotions to life!

Sounds like Diana has some great advice!

]]> by: Allison http://ellisfamily.blogsome.com/2008/01/24/what-happened-to-for-better-or-for-worse/#comment-277 Fri, 25 Jan 2008 20:31:03 +0000 http://ellisfamily.blogsome.com/2008/01/24/what-happened-to-for-better-or-for-worse/#comment-277 We're going through the same thing. Just recently we found out that our very good friends are getting divorced. It has completely shaken me to a ridiculous degree. I mean, we went on vacation with them and our children last year and I thought everything was wonderful. Now I'm scared it's going to get ugly and we're going to be forced to "choose sides" and I absolutely don't want to do that. But even more than that, they got married right before us, have two children like us, and we have so much in common. Not that I doubt my marriage in the least; it actually has gotten stronger the longer we've been married. Sorry I'm rambling, but this topic is a hot issue for me. As for your comments on my blog, yes the CHI Russia boy is our little S. He was so little then! And also, email me privately and I'll give you the low-down on details of our current adoption. I can't find your email anywhere. We’re going through the same thing. Just recently we found out that our very good friends are getting divorced. It has completely shaken me to a ridiculous degree. I mean, we went on vacation with them and our children last year and I thought everything was wonderful. Now I’m scared it’s going to get ugly and we’re going to be forced to “choose sides” and I absolutely don’t want to do that. But even more than that, they got married right before us, have two children like us, and we have so much in common. Not that I doubt my marriage in the least; it actually has gotten stronger the longer we’ve been married. Sorry I’m rambling, but this topic is a hot issue for me.
As for your comments on my blog, yes the CHI Russia boy is our little S. He was so little then! And also, email me privately and I’ll give you the low-down on details of our current adoption. I can’t find your email anywhere.

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